Reframing Expired Insecurities

Updated: Apr 13, 2020

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Part 1

Holy. Cow. After Joel introduced me to this idea of expired insecurities becoming our superpowers I can’t help but notice them in myself and my loved ones ALL. THE. TIME. In the first workshop, I shared that I was painfully shy as a kid. And I emphasize painfully. Talking on the phone, ordering food from a waitress or at a window, talking to anyone I didn’t know really well made my whole body hot and sweaty.

I have a very distinct memory of going to this restaurant Ed Debevic’s as a kid. It’s one of those diner-type places where they dance and sing on the countertops every hour and the wait staff is rude to you… have most people been to a place like this?

Well I can’t remember how old I was, maybe 9 or 10 and we were there for my birthday. Still to this day I hate when people sing “Happy Birthday” to me because it’s too much attention at once. I always tear up out of embarrassment. Yup, I do this as a grown-ass adult. At Ed Debevic's, a whole crew of staff come over to sing to you, not to mention my whole extended family is there and they make a HUGE, loud deal out of it.

Um, pass. Not interested. No thank you.

So I knew when they were coming because they brought over a sundae and you can see all the waiters walking over. I casually slipped away and snuck into the bathroom. This turned out to be a poor choice. As I was hiding in the bathroom stall the waitress propped the door open so the whole staff could belt the “Happy Birthday” song into the bathroom. I sat there shocked for a moment, but then I had to walk out of the bathroom and across the whole restaurant as people stared at me and cheered. Not to mention my whole family waiting at the table who then sang the song AGAIN. I was mortified! And I cried. I cried a lot. Needless to say, we never went to Ed Debevic’s for my birthday again. How the heck is that a superpower?

Part 2

As an adult I still get extremely nervous to speak in front of groups of people. However, I’ve taken some public speaking courses and I’ve found that if I just jump in and say what I need to say right away it’s easier. I try to not stay stuck in my head and build the experience up as this terrible thing. Joel actually was floored that I was so shy as a kid because that’s not how I show up at work.

I’ve found that I have a way of jumping into the water first and letting people know it’s okay to jump in too. I’m a very genuine, down to earth person and connecting with individuals is something I’m very good at. Because of that, many people trust me.

I’m also acutely aware of people’s strengths, and when I share my voice and ideas in a space I really love to share things my friends and colleagues are amazing at! I know it’s so hard to share something you’re good at. It feels boastful and weird. Writing that last section about myself felt really weird! But by not sharing the wonderful things everyone is doing, we’re doing the world an injustice!

So what was an insecurity you had as a child that shape-shifted into a superpower???

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